Hard-on or not to Hard-on

Often I get asked how I manage to do photos of these girls and resisting the urge to hand them back their money to use their services. The simple truth is that not every girl I work with is my cup of tea. Being in the business tends to complicate issues, so even the ones that I would hand back their money for a call, would end up being awkward or seem unprofessional to some.

A more interesting question that I am asked usually comes from the girls regarding arousal during a photo session. My job is simple, find sexy and seductive ideas and situations to bring out into photos. Having a half-naked woman as your full attention for over an hour must have some affect on me hormonally right?

Something that I am grateful for, and it's an ability that I hadn't paid much attention to until a year or so after I started doing these types of photos. I can have a one-way conversation between my mind and my body. To do my job well and fully immerse myself into my work, I have to be thinking sexy, lucid and sometimes dirty thoughts for extended periods of time in a creative way ... and I can tune out my body's reaction thank God!

Not every girl that I have in front of the camera is someone that 'turns my crank'. With every girl that I photograph though, I have to put myself in the mindset of the person who their look does it for. It's somewhat of a role play in a sense, I have to look for the types of things that their clientele are drawn to and find appealing. When there is something or someone that I can closer relate to my own interests, it's a lot easier. I'm not much of the type for BDSM, but I really enjoy being creative with it.

Naturally, with all this sexy thoughts and imagery in my head, my body has a reaction. Not always, but usually. There are times I'm so focused on manipulating light or an effect for the photo that the thoughts are too technical but the finished look is sexy. Between outfits things generally cool off for me, not always but usually. Having the person I'm working with standing pressed up against me looking at the photos from the back of the camera adds some things like touch and scent that a little harder to ignore.

So, what does this mean for the girl on the other side of the camera? There's a number of possibilities as each person really has their own view about having the guy taking photos of them sporting a pipe in his pants. There's quite a few who usually don't pay attention, some want to see a reaction like that and others look at it as unprofessional. I usually don't know which camp they're in until I either see a reaction or well into the session.

At one photo session I had a girl who was upset that she didn't see a raging erection in my pants during her photos. To be honest I was flattered, but she was wrong. I had been putting some effort into hiding my physical reaction to the photos, in hindsight I shouldn't have worried so much about it. I think she checked between outfits when my concentration is elsewhere, and not dwelling on what I've just seen. To her, seeing an erection would have encouraged her and helped her get into a more seductive mindset.


At another photo shoot, a girl reach up and used her hand to check for herself, commenting that if it was getting me aroused then the photos were turning out well. Mostly, I don't wear clothes that bring attention to whether or not something is going on in my pants. She was the only girl to physically grope me during a photo shoot to date, it definitely heightened my creativity to give me more to think about what I wanted to come across in the photos.

I think I've only had one person in the time that I've been doing this make a comment that they felt that being aroused seemed unprofessional. It would be naive of me to think that there aren't others. It's difficult to take sexy photos without having to put similar ideas into your head. Everyone has their opinion, and I respect them. I think it's more likely with massage attendants than it is with escorts.


In my opinion, captivating images give a sense of desire or seek reaction from the viewer. While some look to find sexy poses and use the photos as a visual aid to generate interest, having the viewer react or take responsive action is the intent of advertising. I wouldn't suggest it during one of my consultations or list in my FAQ's, but take a moment to think about this ... If you flirt, suggest and seduce the photographer during the photos, this is what the end viewer will see being directed to them.

I don't think there's a right or wrong answer, each person will have individual views on the issue. Sometimes I wish there could be a little check-box or something to know ahead of time when someone has a strong feeling one way or the other. To answer the question: Yes, I do get aroused, likely more often than anyone notices.